About me
I help separated parents co-parent effectively, in alignment with their chosen parenting values, so they can co-parent with relaxed confidence, focused on enjoying their children and building their new life
I’m Tiffany Rochester, CEO of Co-Parenting Companion and your Co-Parenting Coach.
I have always worked at the difficult end of complex family dynamics, focusing on long-term thriving after hardship. In my early career, I resourced families with children in the juvenile justice system. These families were some of my best early teachers, as I saw how hard they worked to provide nurturing environments for their children. Yet, they were battling against service providers who judged them unfairly, and they had never been taught efficient skills for conflict resolution, setting and holding healthy boundaries, and living in alignment with their own core values around love, loyalty and kindness.
As I moved through my career, I have continued to work with parents walking some of the most arduous parenting journeys, chief among them being separated parents. It’s horrifying how many families have lost years of their lives and thousands of dollars trying to resolve conflict through the strong arm of the law. It seemed so often that no one had offered to resource co-parents with communication tools and strategies to help them boldly co-parent collaboratively in alignment with their values. Instead, they’ve been left to fight over black-and-white words in a legal document with the threat of contravention forever hanging over their heads.
Too many times, I had parents say to me, “I wish I’d met you right at the start. I could have saved so much time and money. We wouldn’t be here now.”
And so, I decided to shift my attention to supporting and resourcing separated co-parents right from the first steps of contemplating separation through the early years. How much more we can achieve if we work on healthy boundaries, clear communication, and values-aligned behaviours before post-separation conflict becomes entrenched with time and money sunk into litigious processes!
Separation of an unhealthy relationship can be a Good News story, both for parents and children.
Life is short. Relationships end for great reasons. I am passionate about resourcing co-parents to open up to the next chapter of building one family across two homes. A life where co-parenting communication is easy and low-stress, and the children feel warmly connected to both parents and their extended families.
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Are we a perfect match?
Do you love your kids with all your heart?
Does it make sense to you to work hard right now to build a healthy family for your children across two homes (even if your co-parent isn’t quite on that same page as you yet)?
Do you want to co-parent with relaxed confidence with more time, freedom and money to do the things you dream of?
Then you have found your village! You are in the right place.
I’m not going to lie; the services I offer are not for everyone.
My services are for people who are honestly committed to doing the short-term hard work required to co-parent well.
I will resource you with coping strategies, communication tools, and shortcuts to avoid conflict and reach rapid resolutions.
I will keep you one step ahead of the game, predicting and planning with you to avoid the common pitfalls that trip up separated families.
You are the one who will need to pick up the tools and use them.
Let me tell you about my “Why”.
I enjoy being mum to my two teenage sons. There is no more tremendous privilege than this for me. They are my definite “why” behind all of the work that I do.
My boys have certainty about their place in our family, their relationship with each parent, and their connection to our extended family. With this sense of assuredness, I see the natural advantage they have as they go about their day-to-day teenage tasks of going to school, catching up with friends, and doing extra-curricular activities. There is a burden they don’t have to carry, which frees them to grow up slowly, work out their identities in developmentally appropriate ways, eat good food and sleep well each night.
It’s the same safety my own parents were able to provide for me.
I see what my children have, and I want that for all children. I know how fortunate I am, and I want that for all parents.
The very same research and skills I use in my Coaching work are the same ones I apply in my home, and I want to make that accessible to all parents. It’s too good, too precious not to share.
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